the result is affected!

I hear - or better, read - more often about people who say I (we?) making an elephant out of a fly.

In some cases, I agree with them - but in my case, not. I mean, even those people have to understand: I had over 8 years of depression, from the 13th to the 21st year of my life!
I mean, other (normal) people learn important social abilities in this specific period, like 'how to flirt', 'how to read body-language', 'how to kiss' - but I was strong introverted and not going out - which means, that I never learned those things, which seems so common for other people.

And, yes, those lack of social understanding affects our love-live.

Here's the last 'mistake' happened:

She

hello, what s going on?

10:30pmAdrian

errm.. Nothing - and you? hows going?

10:30pmShe

why are u bothering me all the time?

i think u are chasing me

10:32pmAdrian

parden?

10:32pmShe

i like u adrian but give me pls at least for one day a little bit of peace

10:35pmAdrian

oh, ok... didn't know that you felt hard pressed -

I'll let you all the peace and freedom you want, you just have to say it (because I wouldn't find it out by myself.

so, in this case:

I wish you a good night - if there is nothing more you wanna say

10:49pmShe

oh, thank u that u understood me, i didn t want to be impolite but i had to say that

good night

As you can see, she felt herself hunted and bothered by me, but I didn't even notice that it was too much.

There's a small line between ensnaring someone - and may get a date - and being treated like a stalker. But I never learned, where this line is...

Hopefully, she don't got a too bad impression from this, but it's a good example that it - sadly - happens so often to me that I cross a line I never knew.

If she would say "stop", then I would instantly stop, but she wouldn't do it that easy because she can't know that I'm loveshy. And on the other side, opening a conversation with "hey, I'm an absolute beginner and have no Idea how to interact with women" is not a good pick-up line.

So, saying what you are and fearing her (away) or acting totally wrong and loose her too.

There are always two ways, and none of them is good.

so long

Adrian